Become Successful Faster With This great Piece of Advice from My Mentor Darren Hardy

Happy Sunday Coach!

First, I will be at the MN Coaches Symposium this next Friday April 21st.  If you are there, please come up and say hi.  

Today, I want to share a great tip from Darren Hardy, the author of one of my favorite books, the Compound Effect.   

Every morning, he shares a piece of advice with his audience.  The one he shared on Friday was a great reminder for me and so I wanted to share a part of it with you.   

A little context first.  Hardy used to be the editor of Success Magazine.   

He spent a quarter of a century interviewing, investigating and getting to know the most successful people in the world.  (cool job right?) 

His job was to figure out what they did to create their massive success so that he could pass those practices on to his TV or magazine audience. 

This last Friday morning, he attempted to solve one of the greatest mysteries there are about becoming uber successful. 

He found that everyone wanted to know: 

• How does Richard Branson start his day?  
• What did Steve Jobs eat for breakfast?  
• How does Elon Musk set his goals?  
• How does Oprah run a creative meeting, etc. 

Most people think that uber successful people do incredible things incredibly.

Well, that’s not it at all.  

What they do, you do, for the most part, you might even do it better than them in some cases.  

What they do matters very little.  

Here’s what makes the difference.  

This is where you’re going to have the mystery of all success revealed to you now, are you ready?  

It all comes down to what they’re willing not to do. 

ü What they’re willing not to consume mentally.  

ü What they’re willing not to eat or drink.  

ü What they’re willing not to think. 

ü What they’re willing not to say.  

ü What they’re willing not to do.  

He went on to talk about to become an Olympic athlete, it won’t come down to what you do.  

Everyone competing to get into the Olympics is talented. Everyone is going to train hard.  

The talent, the training, the doing is not going to be the separator.  

It is all the things they’re willing not to do that will determine whether they make it. 

ü What are they willing not to consume mentally?  

ü What are they willing not to eat or drink?  

ü What are they willing not to think?  

ü What are they willing not to say?  

ü What are they willing not to do?  

To be an Olympic athlete, they don’t have the freedom of choice.  

Choice is an illusion. They don’t have a choice.  

If you want to become an Olympic athlete. There is a giant list of things that get removed from your choice list.  

If they do indulge in that forbidden list, that is what cost them a goal, the platform, qualifying for the Olympics or even making the team.  

They are not an Olympic athlete then.  

So for you coach, if you want to be uber successful, you don’t really have a ton of choices.  

If you want to have a loving, respectful and intimate marriage, there’s a giant list of things that get removed from your choice list.  

If you want to have a lead strong energy or body, there is a giant list of things that get removed from your choice list.  

If you want to have a be successful at recruiting, be an inspiring leader, raise a healthy and self-confident child there’s a giant list of things that get removed from your choice list.  

If you want to discover how to be more successful, stop looking for what you need to do and start deciding what are you willing not to do. 

To be an Olympic performer in your sport, with your recruiting, in your office, in your home: 

Ø You cannot mainline sensational news media.  

Ø You cannot spend an hour a day on toxic social media.  

Ø You cannot binge watch The Walking Dead on Netflix. 

Ø You cannot hang out with college friends who gossip. 

Ø You cannot eat sugar and high carb foods, etc. etc.  

You no longer have those choices. They are on the giant list of things that get removed from your choice list.  

You cannot have both. 

To gain one eliminates the other. Are you following me here?  

I guarantee you, your greater success as a coach has little to do with what else you need to do.  

Particularly if you’re here reading this newsletter. You’re likely already working hard.   

Your greater success does not lie in doing more or probably even doing anything differently.  

It lies in what you are willing not to do.  

So tell me, what to you want to be an Olympian in: an Olympic husband, an Olympic mother, an Olympic influencer and an Olympic recruiter on Olympic coach?  

Declare what you want to be first, and then start your giant list of things removed from your choice list by at least listing three things that you’re willing not to do, starting today. 

To your success, 

Mandy Green