#1 way to NOT feel overwhelmed
When I was younger, especially when I became a head coach, I struggled mightily with always feeling overwhelmed.
Well, lots of reasons…
I did become a 1st time D1 head soccer coach and a 1st time mom all within 10 days of each other.
That was rough.
But the main one was that I had no boundaries.
I basically tried to make everyone happy.
So if I was trying to stay on top of my recruiting emails, and in the flow, I’d drop all of it if a kid on the team sent me a text message saying they needed to talk to me.
Or if someone emailed me, I made sure I got back to them right away so they didn’t get upset.
My whole ideology was trying to fix everyone else’s problems.
Being a little older (and wiser) now, I can tell you this is a recipe for disaster.
If you put everyone else’s needs before your own, you’ll wind-up miserable.
You’ll be overwhelmed…
You’ll get walked all over…
And you’ll feel like you have no control of your life.
Because when you don’t have boundaries, you’re at the whim of everyone around you.
You have no sense of self.
So you’re just constantly reacting to what’s going on around you.
Which is not a fun spot to be in.
Like I said, I struggled with this for years.
And it’s only in the last 3-4 years that I’ve been able to develop solid boundaries in my career…
Now I’m able to put myself first…
I’m able to make myself a priority…
And the difference is night and day.
Cause now I get to choose what I focus on…
I get to choose what I let affect me…
That’s the power of good boundaries.
Without boundaries, you feel overwhelmed…
And burnt out…
Cause you’re basically trying to make everyone happy except yourself.
I know a lot of coaches have this problem with their team and staff…
It’s something that isn’t talked about much…
But if you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a look at your boundaries.
Are you putting yourself first?
Or is everyone else first?
Give it some thought.
Cause having good boundaries could change dramatically change your life. If you want my help with how and when to set up your boundaries, just hit reply to this email and we can set up a 30 minute call.
I hope you enjoyed your Sunday,